As I work with people one on one, I have discovered Three Seasons of Communication Styles that people use with confidence to build their business – or if used incorrectly based on fear…it will deteriorate their business.
Many do not even know they are deteriorating their business, family life or even their health – but lets just look at it for now with your business.
You do not need a degree in business to realize that how you communicate is based on fear or confidence. All one really needs is a simple article like this to wake up and realize that what you communicate is truly an expression of the condition of your attitude towards fear or confidence.
Many people have fear that is self inflicted based on (self protective) pride that:
1) creates faulty assumptions and conclusion of imaginary ‘what if’s’ and:
2) create experiences based on past immaturities and foolishness that resulted in consequences that were to be learned from and not be the final outcome.
Fear can be so vividly imagined in the mind that our body responds to it as if it were true…and many times it is invalid fear.
To break out of this self inflicted fear (that keeps people stuck in pride) I have learned that if one wants to expand their growth, we can look at each phase as a Season of Time.
There are the 3 ways of growing & communicating your vision:
Is what you value and believe in that takes a season of time to refine and gain experience of the required abilities to become a vision that reflects what you have a passion for and will commit to.
Imagine it is a process of learning a trade.
As you work what you value and believe in some will discover what is of excellence and create something that is valued for combining the ‘best of’ resources in a new way.
Some will find what is missing and create something that is valued for combining what is lacking and needed to solve problems with unique solutions.
Again, Imagine this is about a refinement of their trade that becomes a craft.
If your Process and Meaning endures the demands of what is needed, it solves problems and is unique – it may last long enough to tell a story all on its own – without force – that is an expression of your vision that impacts others strong enough so that they express it to others with joy, happiness and confidence.
For a few that create, learn, modify, experience and persist it is a lifetime of sharing a perspective that resonates with others and can become a form of Artistry.
Looking at where you are as a Season of Time in forming your vision – are you in a Season of:
You can learn where you are by the consequences you are getting.
Some are so new to building their vision that they have an Artistry mentality with no foundation of experience from being in seasons of growth of Trade & Craft – they just want the pay off. Even if you are more mature in age – you gotta be in a Trade Season.
Some are experienced people in one form of Artistry and begin a new venture and (without knowing it) are now put into a Trade Season and yet expect and almost demand to be treated as if they already are in an Artistry Season of respect that only comes with Time.
The EGO can demand pride without thinking it needs to walk in humility to gain experience that is required from being in a Trade Season that leads to a Craft Season and finally a well deserved Artistry Season.
If humility wins – consequences of growth happen almost as if they were meant to happen. Peace, patience and self control are moderating the spirit of an individual to experience a level of serving others that is geared toward what is needed for them – more so than a perspective of what I think you need.
If pride wins – consequences of stagnation & lack of building based on being judgmental and comparison that is related to jealousy will create a stream of strife (arguments, tension & comparison) and striving (demanding, proving & justifying) to ‘make it work’ – all because pride is blinding and causes a form of deafness from not ‘hearing’ how humility will serve others better than pride can (pride ONLY serves one person: YOU).
A look at your Process, Meaning and how you Express your vision can reveal an old walk mentality that has consequences that you can take personal (self inflicted) and fight back in pride with, or – you can respond for a Season in one Area of Growth that creates new consequences of humility based on a New Walk.