3 Seasons of Growing & Communicating Your Vision.

As I work with people one on one, I have discovered Three Seasons of Communication Styles that people use with confidence to build their business – or if used incorrectly based on fear…it will deteriorate their business.

Many do not even know they are deteriorating their business, family life or even their health – but lets just look at it for now with your business.

You do not need a degree in business to realize that how you communicate is based on fear or confidence. All one really needs is a simple article like this to wake up and realize that what you communicate is truly an expression of the condition of your attitude towards fear or confidence.

Many people have fear that is self inflicted based on (self protective) pride that:

1) creates faulty assumptions and conclusion of imaginary ‘what if’s’ and:

2) create experiences based on past immaturities and foolishness that resulted in consequences that were to be learned from and not be the final outcome.

Fear can be so vividly imagined in the mind that our body responds to it as if it were true…and many times it is invalid fear.

To break out of this self inflicted fear (that keeps people stuck in pride) I have learned that if one wants to expand their growth, we can look at each phase as a Season of Time.

There are the 3 ways of growing & communicating your vision:

Process
Is what you value and believe in that takes a season of time to refine and gain experience of the required abilities to become a vision that reflects what you have a passion for and will commit to.
Imagine it is a process of learning a trade.

Meaning
As you work what you value and believe in some will discover what is of excellence and create something that is valued for combining the ‘best of’ resources in a new way.
Some will find what is missing and create something that is valued for combining what is lacking and needed to solve problems with unique solutions.
Again, Imagine this is about a refinement of their trade that becomes a craft.

Expression
If your Process and Meaning endures the demands of what is needed, it solves problems and is unique – it may last long enough to tell a story all on its own – without force – that is an expression of your vision that impacts others strong enough so that they express it to others with joy, happiness and confidence.
For a few that create, learn, modify, experience and persist it is a lifetime of sharing a perspective that resonates with others and can become a form of Artistry.

Looking at where you are as a Season of Time in forming your vision – are you in a Season of:

Trade?

Craft?

Artistry?

You can learn where you are by the consequences you are getting.

Some are so new to building their vision that they have an Artistry mentality with no foundation of experience from being in seasons of growth of Trade & Craft – they just want the pay off. Even if you are more mature in age – you gotta be in a Trade Season.

Some are experienced people in one form of Artistry and begin a new venture and (without knowing it) are now put into a Trade Season and yet expect and almost demand to be treated as if they already are in an Artistry Season of respect that only comes with Time.

The EGO can demand pride without thinking it needs to walk in humility to gain experience that is required from being in a Trade Season that leads to a Craft Season and finally a well deserved Artistry Season.

If humility wins – consequences of growth happen almost as if they were meant to happen. Peace, patience and self control are moderating the spirit of an individual to experience a level of serving others that is geared toward what is needed for them – more so than a perspective of what I think you need.
If pride wins – consequences of stagnation & lack of building based on being judgmental and comparison that is related to jealousy will create a stream of strife (arguments, tension & comparison) and striving (demanding, proving & justifying) to ‘make it work’ – all because pride is blinding and causes a form of deafness from not ‘hearing’ how humility will serve others better than pride can (pride ONLY serves one person: YOU).

A look at your Process, Meaning and how you Express your vision can reveal an old walk mentality that has consequences that you can take personal (self inflicted) and fight back in pride with, or – you can respond for a Season in one Area of Growth that creates new consequences of humility based on a New Walk.

Top Three Vision Killers of a New Walk. Vision Session #5

The New Walk as 3 Vision Killers.

As you take risks and learn from your New Walk – the top three things that kill your vision come from Immaturity, Foolishness & Pride. These Three Vision Killers close doors of opportunity quickly and create a sense of no light at the end of the tunnel and lead to avoidance and numbing out if left unchecked. 

These Vision Killers also can leave you with a sense of being mis-understood as well if you are on a New Walk quest and do not understand what is going on. 

It is not all about opening doors of opportunity – as the reality of doors opening means a consequence of the opposite – closing doors as well.
This is not about doors being closed on you – but learning to close doors intentionally by YOU.

This is about letting some things go.

It is also about making some difficult choices and decisions based on that it may not be about the people you are pointing fingers at or blaming others for your life challenges – as if you point your finger at one person, look at your finger pointing hand – you will see a few other fingers pointing back AT YOU! 

Vision killers are immaturity, foolishness, pride and also the opinions of other peoples immaturity, foolishness and pride = creating a lack of understanding.

Being around someone funny is one thing and comedy can only be taken for so long as it can be draining to laugh for a long amount of time. Comedy Club shows are only so long – and when comedians come off stage, many are regular people and only perform when they are ‘on’, and separate their lives for being ‘on’ and being ‘off’.
But when you are around someone that is ‘foolish’ constantly – it is draining…and the foolish individual doesn’t even know it and is wondering why life is not moving in the direction he reads about in other peoples life or see’s them living out with success. Success seems like a light at the end of the tunnel.

Being Funny is one thing – being Foolish is not funny nor is it not related to anything resembling the art of comedy – it is living from immaturity that is sensed in the heart by others and is many times repelled and in the long run closes doors of opportunity.
When you decided to live out a Vision and want to open doors it can be frustrating to take a risk and realize it is going no where because of doors being closed or you are not being taken seriously and levels of trust are hard to establish until a sense of maturity to engage with you is established.

Setting boundaries with yourself to mature and to gain wisdom is difficult if you are stuck in immaturity, foolishness and pride – and many times it is a matter of your own perspective more so than something you are born with and this is promising for those of you that feel you are stuck in a mindset of immaturity.

When you establish boundaries with yourself – which is called: Self Control – just that action of establishing boundaries alone is a sign of maturity and will be encouraged by others (and be on guard for those who have or will not establish boundaries with themselves). A discussion with you on the hot topics of your life will reveal areas that lack Self-Control and many times indicate areas of immaturity, foolishness and pride.

Your actions are more of an indicator to the world of who you are. Step out of immaturity in your actions and this reveals the development of a leader. As this is more powerful than reading a book on leadership and talking the talk.
There are a lot of immature leaders out there talking the talk.

Another vision killer is the ‘fake it till you make it’ philosophy – works for some – as you have to try to do something outside your comfort zone or experience zone to develop confidence – so, intention is key for how you incorporate your vision. Building confidence with authentic vision and walking that out in discomfort but with your head held high in humility is desirable compared to faking it till you make it while filled with Pride. Pride can fill your heart when you walk something out faking it and getting a positive response from it. You build a Prideful Perspective from doing this over and over.

Guard your heart for sure – but walking out in humility, asking questions, engaging with people from good intentions and learning from them builds confidence backed up with inner Maturity to fuel your walk.

You influence people through your hearts intentions based on manipulation or inspiration – so this is  where your intention comes from in your heart and is sensed by other people as if they are picked up like invisible energy waves and sensed in their own heart and spirit as to whether they are negative or positive.

Having a desire of being Understood comes from the foundational message based on Proverbs 20:5 – Proverbs overall is filled with examples of how you can learn to be understood with other peoples Maturity, Wisdom and Humility – as those things can be drawn out of you – and this is the foundation of a New Walk.

Opening Doors of Opportunity – Vision Session #3

Opening Doors of Opportunity

As you pursue risk and doors open for you – one thing that has to develop over time is the process of skin thickening.

Skin Thickening happens over time from learning to not take things personal. It may hurt a bit or make you feel uncomfortable – but you learn to not take it personal.

When we start out at first, everyone may or may not be on board for you and your Vision Journey. Thing is – we have to live our life without permission from everyone to accomplish our goals. If we go around asking everyone what their thoughts are on doing what we are designed to do then we are doing things based on what others think vs doing things that we are meant to do. Other peoples opinions can have a strength and authority in our lives to the point of not following our calling if we are concerned with what others think more so than what we sense in our Spirit to do.

We are not under the authority of others once we are over the age of 18 and are mature enough to take on the responsibilities of life. This is about taking on what you are Responsible for and God has given you a Realm of Influence to be in charge of.

It is very important to have your spouse and family on board with what you are doing – that is a given.

Worry of what others think will keep doors of opportunity closed.
Fear, frustration, judgement, criticism and pride keep doors closed.

Serving others opens doors.

This is about doing something bigger than yourself and thin skinned people are in fear of what others think syndrome. 

So as you take on a risk and step through the door of opportunity (pursuing your vision) we become sensitive to what others think more so of what we are doing because of lack of confidence in knowing what we are doing.
It is ‘natural’ to feel this.
It is ‘Supernatural’ to break through this.

There are many leaders out there that do NOT know what they are doing every moment of walking out their vision.
You realize your a leader right? So this means you can still lead and not know every step you are to take – and this is normal. 

So, what is it that keeps them on their path? What helps them to make choices and decisions even when they are unsure of what to do?
1)Values ((I value Biblical Principles and A Healthy Authenticity to name a couple))
2)Knowing what is important to them ((Self Control & Patience are a couple things important for me – yeah we all say family, health and work – but this is more about what resides in you and not about what is outside of you))
3)What they believe in – and this is so important to them that it drives all of what they do and are building for the Vision that is in their heart. And this is ‘why’ they do what they do – as people believe in why you do what you do – not just what you do.

What is important for you to walk out your vision is what keeps you on the right path.
When you are short on knowing what to do at times – your values help you make decisions in moments of uncertainty. As ultimately is is you and what is important to you that dictates where your vision should go. If you make a poor decision then you will know quickly how to change it and redirect it. If you are doing things based on what other people think, then you will be stuck and uncertain in decision making and leading with what is important to you – and when others sense this they will unfollow you and not trust you in your lack of follow through.
People need to see you follow through even if it fails, or to change direction to another option. As you deal with a bad decision people will see your strength and even want to help or support you. People want to see you succeed and they also want to believe in you more so when they see that you are in it for the long run and are willing to fight for it.

This process thickens your skin. As you skin thickens it can influence you to become Arrogant and Prideful – or – Humble and Service Orientated – and it is all about what you value, what is important to you and what you believe in.

And as Doors of Opportunity open for you – it is important to be reminded of what is influencing your decision making and thin skinned people are obviously hiding behind numbing out and avoiding risks out fear of what others think of them…closing doors of opportunity.

Do you feel as if there are no opportunities for you?

Is your skin thin or thick?

You can feel sorry for yourself and stay that way – and that is a form of Pride – thinking only of yourself.
OR – you can be Humble…and ask for help, believe that doors can open by taking a risk to value what is important to you and your family from a Biblically Based Journey to Serve Others in a New Walk.